Yearly Archives: 2011

Poor as You Want to Be

America, like many other countries through history, has been living the last half-century under the oppression of a group of wealthy people who have created the illusion that they have special powers that other people lack.

The reality: You lack wealth either because you believed a lie, or you are pursuing something you value more than money!

Not all poor want to be, but some do.

I actually chose to be poor! I wanted to be the father of 6 children (so far). That is expensive, but worth it. I spend a lot of time with my family. They are more important to me than money is. I am also spending some of my free time on an alphabet to help those with dyslexia. I could make more money doing other things but I have found something better.

Not all poor are lazy, but some are.

A lazy person has also found something that want more than money or any of the other benefits that come from hard work. They want an easy life free from discomforts. Unfortunately, they fail to realize that they are actually working against their own purposes, but that is a story for another day. Actually laziness can have another source.

Not all poor believe a lie, but most do.

The biggest cause of poverty is belief in a lie. I am not smart enough. I am handicapped. My parents couldn’t afford to send me to a “good” college. My boss cheated me. You name the excuse, it is based on a lie. I am going to list a few here and discuss them over the next few weeks.

  1. I need a big break
  2. I don’t have talent
  3. I am doing the best I can
  4. I was cheated by my boss or somebody rich
  5. Fate is against me, bad luck, bad health
  6. I’ll do better tomorrow
  7. You have to follow your dream
  8. My parents warped me
  9. I don’t know how
  10. It shouldn’t be this hard

Can you think of others to add to the list?

Church Websites Should Never Be Free

We have been researching, experimenting, brainstorming, and skipping meals trying to lower the cost of quality websites for churches. I would love to find a way to do websites for free and still feed my family, but that just isn’t going to happen. Here’s why:

  1.  Free websites are not really free. They are paid for by advertisements or a single sponsor/benefactor that ultimately controls the site.
  2. Limiting advertising to just compatible businesses/organizations is more expensive than running the site in the first place. Plus think about the message you are sending to potential visitors. This church is a commercial enterprise.
  3. Few churches have volunteers skilled/dedicated enough to keep site up to date. Look at the average church bulletin board – you know the one with the push-pins.
  4. Free sites get forgotten. It is a sad, but thoroughly tested truth that free things are not valued. A website with “upcoming events” that have past is likely to run people off, and is an embarrassment to the cause of Christ.

We will continue to search for better ways to provide better sites and better web-services at prices that churches can afford, and may even be launching a free option soon. But, the free option will only be for those who feel a need to learn through experience instead of reading this post.

What do you think?

Is free a good option? Are there other reasons a church site should not be free? How about reasons it really should be free?

Stop Phrases: No, I did not.

This phrase can take several forms and still have the same impact.

  • No, I didn’t.
  • That is not what I said.
  • I didn’t say that.
  • I wasn’t mad.
  • You totally misunderstood.
  • You don’t get it.

Here is an example: *

Friend: Yesterday, when you stuck your tongue out at that kid…

Me: (interrupting) I didn’t stick out my tongue out at him!

Friend: It looked like you stuck out your tongue.

Me: I didn’t stick out my tongue out at him!

Friend: Oh… Then, who were you sticking out your tongue at?

Me: I didn’t stick out my tongue!

At this point my friend has totally forgotten the original conversation, is probably exasperated, and the conversation is over.

At least I didn’t have to hear my friend’s criticism, but I also didn’t learn anything.

The facts of the matter are:

  1. I did make a face that displayed my anger about the kid spilling my coffee all over me while he was running to get a first-aid kit.
  2. I was one of the few people in the group that was not aware that his friend was in a life threatening situation.
  3. I looked like a total jerk for worrying about my clothes in a situation like that.
  4. I proved that I was a jerk by arguing about words when my friend was simply going to suggest I apologize.

Again,  Stop Phrases end conversations! Sometimes you want to end the conversation, but you can learn a lot if you don’t.

If someone mistakenly thinks that you did, thought, or said something that you did not, stop and think. Is it possible that you did something that could be easily mis-perceived? Is it possible that they confused you with someone else? Is it possible that you did it without realizing it? Keep the conversation going. Ask questions. See if there is anything you can learn even if the facts aren’t right.

Even if you did not do exactly what your “attacker” says you did, something made them think that you did. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want people to even think I did something wrong, if for no other reason than that they might do something unkind to me or my friends and family.

Try to learn from every situation, even if… especially if… the lesson or the teacher is painful. :)

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* Sorry to disappoint, but the example above is total fiction. If it helps, I have witnessed countless situations very similar to this.

A Tiger in Every High Chair and Two Piggy Toes in Every Garage

Check out this hilarious mad-lib our family produced recently. :)

Ladies and gentlemen, on this cute occasion, it is a privilege to address such a slobbery-looking group of diapers. I can tell from your smiling laughs that you will support my sticky program in the coming election. I promise that, if elected, there will be a/ tiger in every high chair and two piggy toes in every garage. I want to warn you against my sleepy opponent, Mr. Phillip. This man is nothing but a silly duct tape. He has a painful character and is working wooden spoon in glove with the criminal element. If elected, I promise to eliminate vice. I will keep the teeth off the city’s streets. I will keep crooks from dipping their cutie pies in the public till. I promise you babbling government, flat taxes, and fast schools.

For those not familiar with mad-libs, each of the bold words were entered into a form that asked for nouns, verbs, etc. After completing the form, the words were automatically placed into the paragraph at predetermined spots.

Stop Phrases: I don’t know what you mean.

me: (long technical explanation)

person I am chatting with: I don’t know what you mean.

me: I can’t help that you are mentally challenged. You don’t have to be rude about it.

No, I didn’t actually say that… but I thought about it. :)

I know this person. She is very polite, kind, intelligent… and very formal. Maybe a bit too formal on chat. If she had just said, “huh?” I probably wouldn’t even have noticed. But typing a whole sentence just to say, “what?” made me stop and think.

Failure to communicate on chat happens all the time. We know someone is just sitting there waiting. So we try to go as fast as we can. We abbreviate, leave out whole words, and sometimes skip whole thoughts hoping the other person will “just get it”. Huh? happens. Then we go back and fill in things we left out, or explain things that were not clear on the first attempt.

“Huh?” is less disruptive since it is shorter, but it can still be a stop phrase. I know that something I said did not make sense, but I still don’t know why it didn’t make sense. I can look back for typos, but it could be a word you are not familiar with in this context or an entire concept that is unfamiliar.

Stop phrases are words that end a conversation. After a stop phrase, the conversation is over unless one of us can think of something else to say. We may choose to start a new conversation about why you don’t understand, but the flow of conversation has been broken. I now know that I just wasted time time talking to you, since everything I just said made no sense all.

Instead of stopping the conversation, let’s just divert it temporarily. To keep the conversation going, just ask about the specific word, phrase, or idea that you didn’t get.

For example: If you offer to cook a hamburger for me and I say, “I am now hungry.” You could ask, “did you mean not hungry?” You could also play with the likely typo and say, “just the word hamburger, made your stomach growl. :) ” Both let me know that you might have misunderstood, and I can explain if needed.

Either way, try to help the other person figure out what it is you don’t understand so they can explain it better. Ask specific questions. Keep the conversation going until you understand.

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Hardship = Success!

Lost in the middle of hundreds of facebook comments on a fairly contentious topic, I found a really insightful comment on one of the reasons America is having a tough time competing with other countries.

A lot of good points made in the comments here. I’d like to share my thoughts on this.

1. One good point is that Americans get unemployed when foreign workers are being brought in for new jobs. Instead of just fuming, Americans should ask themselves why this is happening. I’d like to share my perception on why this is so:

A lot of Americans I’ve worked with perceive their job as something that occupies 9am to 6pm in their lives, it is NOT the main part of their life, the family is. They like to keep colleagues and friends separate for the most part, put on a “professional” mask when going to office, and don’t like to be asked questions about their personal lives. To them a job is something that they must go to, to keep bringing the money in – and which company doesn’t really matter.

Indians, on the other hand, find it new – this whole concept of jobs being actually available. In India, a person’s identity (especially in case of males) depends mostly on the job, which company he works for, how long he’s been with the company and what position he holds. They take a lot of pride in being very loyal to the company, working overtime, being so super-involved in work that often, the team / work / process starts depending on their accumulated knowledge and skills. IMHO Indians are NOT smarter than Americans, in fact a lot of the time they are a lot less smart. But this tendency for deep involvement / commitment / loyalty is what keeps companies coming to India & Indians – not just cost.

I’ve noticed this stark difference in the way a project gets executed in the US and in India, in some cases different modules of the same project. The level of commitment and hard work that goes into the project is just different. Management does notice this. In a lot of cases, unless the project is a deep scientific R&D type of work, the commitment adds more value than actual smarts. Managements get the best of both worlds by hiring a Russian architect for the brain and send the rest of the bulk work to India.

Let me illustrate with a small example:

Q: What’s the status on the X component of the Y module in the Z project?

American developer’s reply: Yes, there was some email thread about some incompatibility, I need to check and get back. I’ll get back to you by end of week, I’m held up with other things right now, going on My Vacation tomorrow and I’m not answering phone calls or emails until I’m back.

Indian developer’s reply: Oh yes, I saw that email thread, BB team are trying to incorporate this feature in their CC project by passing the parameter as part of the constructor, however this component was developed in parallel without that parameter being considered, therefore it has to be modified to suit that – and the bone of contention is who is going to do that modification and fund it. Hold on, I’ll send you more details by tonight (may be late tonight). I’m going on vacation and wouldn’t be back till end of week, but you can still call me anytime.

Indians have no problem working extra hours / weekends / being called for meetings etc. There is a saying, “the deer runs for its life and the lion runs for its food, so the deer runs harder”. Indians are shit-scared of losing their jobs so they work frantically. For Americans, if not one company then another.

2. (A lot of) Americans study and then try to find a job. Indians try to study what will fetch them a job. Americans are serious about pursuing their dreams – whether it is scuba diving, cooking, learning Chinese, mountaineering… whatever. When going through the process of education, they are very optimistic and they first try to focus on equipping themselves education-wise and knowledge-wise to achieve their dream in terms of occupation. A lot of times, reality hits (and hits hard) only after they graduate. No one wants those skills. There just aren’t enough businesses along those lines, and there are no jobs where there are no businesses. They become cynical and go into some other line of work, and then they don’t make great employees for obvious reasons.

3. It is not about intelligence! This is in reference to the points made about IQ etc. I don’t know which country / race has the best IQ etc etc, but my point here is that it doesn’t matter! In most jobs, people don’t HAVE to use their brains so much. It is more about presence of mind, staying connected with reality, people skills, responding quickly, quick grasp of situations, accepting company policies, team work, attitude and a whole host of other things.

The Indian employment scenario faces different kinds of problems (much, much bigger and more complex than the American scenario) but this discussion is about America, so I will keep those out of this discussion.

Sorry no link. Not sure I want to link to facebook anyway, but the main reason is that I couldn’t find a link to that specific comment.

And here is my reply:

As one of the rare Americans that take the “Indian” approach to work, I totally agree with Natarajan Shanker. Americans blew the doors off of Europe last century because they were willing to do whatever it took to succeed. Now Americans are getting left behind because they do not have the same attitude about work that their grand-parents had.

And it is not just work/career. Americans, in general (not everyone, thankfully, but way too many) have a bad attitude about everything. Sure we have optimism, but misplaced optimism quick turns to rot.

If Americans will stop complaining long enough to really consider what it takes to be successful, they will do really well despite all of the forces lined up against them. As a matter of fact, extreme hardship seems to be a necessary ingredient of spectacular success.

What do you see as the most important ingredients of success? Comments?

There is no absolute truth – Your words are meaningless

“There is no absolute truth,” simply means and proves in it’s common use that the English language has been stretched and twisted beyond the point of usefulness.

Language flexibility is an essential tool of master wordsmiths and humorists alike. But, too much of a good thing can be a huge problem. Nearly every word in the English language of a century ago has either been discarded or redefined – many beyond recognition.

Languages changing over time is nothing new and generally is of little concern. Historians help us to sort out the original meaning of ancient texts and life moves on.

What seems to be a huge problem however is the fact that we now have four generations living in close working relationship with each other all speaking very different dialects of English without realizing it. Also within the two most recent generations we have some very wide regional and cultural variations.

Different dialects that sound deceptively similar with very different meanings for the same words is nothing new, either. Except that modern ideas of community have encouraged us mix people from all of these cultures together. The idea being that if we all work together we can figure out our differences, but we are not.

We are not communicating!

In the past, the person calling something a dog and the person calling it a canine could resolve their differences by pointing. That is a little more difficult when most of the things we talk about today are things you cannot point at. Show me what “Truth” is. Point at it. Love? Hate? Evil? Wicked? (that means really fun right?) Show me “rights”, “fairness”, “separation of church and state”, “conservative”, “liberal”, “life”, “alien”, “billions of dollars”, “marriage”, “family”, or “privacy”.

These words have been stretched so far that they have very little meaning outside the context of the speaker community.

You think you know what I am talking about, but you don’t.

 

School is not Work

Work is all about production. If the work gets done, it doesn’t matter how or in what order. “Just get it done”.

School is the opposite. It is not just about getting information in your head or filling a page with words and numbers.  It is about learning how to learn, building a foundation for future learning and strengthening that brain muscle to make learning and eventually production faster and easier.

In school you learn how to learn. You learn the process of learning. I usually avoid processes and routine. They are boring, stifle creativity and often keep you from learning. They also get in the way of production in some lines of work. You cannot write a procedure for everything when every day brings a new and uniquely unique challenge. However, some processes, the right processes, actually help you learn.

School at its best will teach you the steps that are most helpful in learning new information and solving new problems – even ones that don’t look like anything you’ve ever seen before. The most valuable thing you learn in school is the process of recognizing what you don’t know, gathering facts, organizing the facts, putting them in context with what you already know and then applying your new-found knowledge to the problem at hand.

In school you are building a foundation that future knowledge can be built on. The facts that you do learn in school are basic facts that make learning job-specific or task-specific details easier. They give context to the details and help protect us from specialist that have no idea how to apply their research to the broader field and to useful life applications.

For example, knowing that it takes about three days to walk 100 miles helps you understand the importance of the pony express and telegraphs in the invention of the automobile, which may be used as an analogy discussing the importance of a new web-application. A general knowledge of history, science, technology, and math all work together to explain a new technology that might be difficult to understand otherwise.

School is intentionally broad in scope to help put all future learning in context. It may seem that you are learning a lot of useless details, but as you focus in on a specific area of knowledge in college or at work, you will discover that those details were actually quite basic facts that barely scratch the surface of what you really need to know to understand that field. I child may think they understand fire because they know that red means hot, but what about blue flames? Those should be safe right?

The more you learn the more you will discover things that you didn’t know that you didn’t know. And since every new thing learned uncovers five new things you don’t know, you will never catch-up with learning all of the things you are aware of that you don’t know! School, as complicated as it may seem, is a simplified set of facts that when learned will make learning the rest more doable.

School should also strengthen the brain, so that it gets used to learning and working through problems. Multiplication on a calculator is easier than multiplication in your head. If all you need is the exact answer, use a calculator, but if you need to make several quick estimates about how much space you need for 100 guests or whether you have enough time to complete 50 widgets by a deadline you can solve that in your head faster than typing it into a computer. Sure, you could look up any word in the dictionary, but you will be able to learn faster if you don’t have to.

School is similar to exercise in that many things you do would not make sense if you were actually trying to produce something. Lifting the same weight over and over again does not accomplish anything. Would it not make more sense to just pick it up once and put it away? Then at least you have accomplished cleaning.

School involves a lot of repetition. Sure that gets boring, but if we look back at the purpose for the repetition, it makes a lot of sense. The brain is a strange thing. It believes and remembers what it sees frequently. If you see a magician pull a rabbit out of an empty hat once, you are not likely to believe it is really possible. It must be an illusion. However, if your friends are all able to do the same thing on a regular basis, your brain starts to believe it even if you cannot do it yourself.

It has been proven many times that if you hear the same thing repeated often enough with enough certainty, your brain will believe it in spite of many facts to the contrary. This is why it is important to make sure that your are hearing good information frequently. You are smarter than your brain and you have to teach your brain what it needs to know. Repetition get the right information in and strengthens your brain so that it can learn more.

Learning and using good processes, acquiring a broad understanding of all areas of knowledge, and strengthening your brain is not, by itself, a very productive process. But productivity is not the goal. Preparation for production is the goal.

 

 

Vocabulary Vs. Tone – And the winner is…

A while back I mentioned that it is very hard to communicate tone in writing. Tabetha and I have started using smileys and other demi-words to communicate some tones, but sometimes talking in person is the only way to go.

Then, today, Tabetha mentioned that when you call something “junk” you don’t need any tone markers. If you call it stuff, products, or items, then you may also need/want to communicate your attitude toward that stuff. If you call it “junk” though, you have said it all in one word.

Then it hit me. That is what is missing from contemporary* English!

We used to have a huge vocabulary with many words that had very similar meanings, but they each carried a different shade of meaning. As we “simplified” our vocabulary we became more and more reliant on tone to carry the meaning that had previously been carried by a careful choice of words.

Tone makes a decent substitute in spoken English, but lack of tone in written English can be disastrous. And, even though tone makes a decent substitute in speech, it still falls short for people who are tone deaf. ** Although, I am not sure that these same people would be able to distinguish between different shades of meaning anyway.

What do you think? Should we try to save the millions of English words that are skidding on the brink of extinction? Or maybe… should we create a whole new vocabulary where all the words are spelled correctly?


* For those unfamiliar with the post-modern dilemma: The early-to-mid 1900′s were so frequently referred to in print as the modern age, that when those things that were called modern became quite out-of-date, we had to invent a new term to describe fashion, philosophy, art, literature, architecture, and everything else that came after what we had named modern. These “new” things were frequently called post-modern, but now we are about to move even beyond post-modern.

So from the beginning of the post-modern age until now we have used the word contemporary to describe those things that are current at the time of writing, while being careful not to let it suffer the same fate as “modern”.

** Yes, this is a non-standard use of the phrase tone deaf, but hopefully this communicates the idea adequately if also a bit whimsically.

Coolest Image Resizer Ever

Preparing images for a shopping cart can be quite difficult. You want as close a view as possible, but you also need each image to be about the same size.

Cropping cuts out important parts. Scaling leaves background bars at the edge and everything is to small. This tool helps.